It can be a bit of a minefield. It’s not easy to decide who you should talk to about the most private, intimate and secretive aspects of yourself that you might never have talked to anyone else about ever before. You might feel quite alone and...
Finding the words, finding the space to talk “I’m not sure why I’m here. My wife said I should speak to someone”. Jackson was silent for a while. He looked around my office, taking in the space around and between us. His eyes rested on a painting...
Writing as a therapeutic tool Since the lockdown, many people have struggled with stress, anxiety and thoughts that can become so overwhelming they cannot sleep. Many men I have seen have struggled to communicate how they feel to their partner and have been unable to gain...
Hearing what your partner is really saying can be tough at times. We sometimes don't want to listen to what they have to say or ignore what they are trying to say. But we could be missing out on what they are feeling. Don't miss...
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What should you do? One of the most significant problems with having an affair is keeping it secret. There are many ways different ways the relationship could be revealed. Your face and attitude could give it away: the guilt, shame, lies and deceit could affect how...
Negative Thoughts When it comes to arguments, we are sometimes transported back to a bad experience we had arguing with our partner or our parents. This experience can provoke various negative feelings and thoughts about ourselves, our partners, our parents, or the person with whom we...
Counselling Men As I opened the front door a rush of icy air entered the vestibule. A slender man in his late forties stood there. He was dressed in a grey hooded top, white shirt and dark blue jeans. He looked very distinguished with his short...
What's the problem with men and their feelings? I've lost count of how many times women ask me this question. It's an age-old problem: men just don't like to talk about their feelings. As a relationship therapist, I've heard many stories about why men don't talk about...
I was travelling back from London one evening after a long meeting, just minding my own business along with other commuters, when the train started to slow down for the first stop. As the train slowed, people around me began to move towards the train...
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